Male Domestic
Violence Victims Experience from a Conflict Theoretical Perspective
BY: Dr. Peter A. Barone, Esq.
To describe a male victim’s
experiences from a conflict theory perspective there must first be a basic
understanding of the tents of conflict theory as apply to familial structure
and domestic violence. The best method for the experiences of male victim of
IPV to be accurately conveyed is via various studies and their findings
(Creswell, 2009; Leedy and Ormrod, 2010). Straus (1980) advises there are
several versions of conflict theory. The Marxist and Conflict Management
versions address conflict resolution and when addressing the micro-level they
deal with laws, and maintain the family as an important social institution. In
these versions male dominance is maintained via formal and informal norms along
with females being socialized into supporting the males’ position of dominance
(Engel, 1993). There is also a political rebellion aspect of these versions
which have a direct nexus to explaining the high rate of IPV perpetrated by
females, or anyone who finds themselves in the subordinate position. The theory
posits that if both men and women were able to maintain equality it would
prevent a large amount of IPV (Straus, 1980).
There is a functionalist version of
conflict theory which posits that conflict is necessary in society assisting in
avoiding stagnation thus leading to social transformation. Dahrendorf (1958)
posits resolutions are placed upon individuals by dominants via violence.
Straus (1980) discusses the use of a Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS) used to
assess conflict which addresses ways to address conflict either by
intellectual, verbal aggression, or violence which is in line with what is
presented by Leary et al., (2006) dealing with frustration and aggression
experienced in a conflict situation.
Conflict theory posits society
exists in a state of continuous conflict due to people vying for a finite
amount of resources, power, while striving to accomplish and maintain their
self-interests. Conflict is intrinsic in various groups to include families
(Straus, 2005 in
Bergen,
Edleson, and Renzetti). This struggle creates conflict where people will
attempt to use various methods to address the conflict. When the situation is
perceived to be critical they resort to the use of threats, manipulation, and
ultimately force in an attempt to either maintain their status quo or obtain
more power, possessions, and control allowing satisfaction of their interests
(Straus, 2006). The ultimate goal is to resolve the conflict in their favor.
The actions are all geared toward the person protecting their own interests
(Akers and Sellers, 2009).
The basic tenets of conflict theory
apply directly to the family units which possess power, money, goods, land, and
freedom of choices all satisfying a person’s interests. In groups, and
families, people may share interests with other members; however, they also
possess their own distinct interests. With limited resources and struggles for
control within a family, there is the propensity for the use of violence by the
person who is dominant to maintain their status and protect their ability to
secure their interests. The protecting of personal interests and the ability to
use IPV is gender indifferent (Smithey and Straus, 2006).
The use of domination, fear,
threats, psychological and physical violence has devastating effects (Straus,
1980). Feminist posit males being the constant aggressor using IPV to maintain
their dominance (Collins, 1974). However, non-feminist conflict theory assumes
an equality which includes dominance from a male or female having a desire to
protect their interests; thus enhancing the propensity for IPV to subordinate
their mate, keep their status quo, or reach a more equitable position by either
partner occurring when subordinate victims rebel and move upward. This is human
based, and not gender based (Blackwell and Piquero, 2005; Hines, 2007; Straus,
2006).
The literature shows, that from a
male victim’s conflict theory perspective, the impact this conflict has is
serious. The situation is seen as critical due to the total role transformation
and a contradiction from societal role indoctrination of dominant male to the
dominated victim. The literature describes the male victim experience being
lost, hurt, betrayed, abused, degraded, humiliated, emasculated, ineffectual,
frustrated and angry (Hines, 2007). Johnson (1995, 2006) describes males
victims as mostly white, 40 years old, professionally employed full time,
having a couple of years of college, with an income of $50,000.00. These
descriptions show that males at all levels can be victimized. All of these
factors lead the male to experience a serious questioning of his masculinity,
doubting his dominant role and position as head of household, which has been
socially created as an accepted image by society. These feelings create a need
for a decision to comply, survive, or to take action to save his interest while
taking the most conducive and viable path to regain power and control over achieving
his goals and interests (Garcia, Soria, and Hurwirtz, 2007).
The male victim experiences a
transformation of the basic dynamics and context of the environment into a
conflicted situation feeling demoralized. These events cause the male victim to
experience a real need to assess the existing conflict and its severity, which
is based upon his perception, which has been created via past life experiences
(Gibson, 1966, 1986). The assessment is the most crucial activity because the
male will view things through the lenses of his socialization process and mind
set of his socially accepted position. If the male victim perceives the need
for maintaining control and accomplishment of his interests as paramount to his
relationship with his partner that will guide his path. However, if the male
victim believes he is in a situation where he is not financially, emotionally,
psychologically, or physically able to move forward then that will also weigh
heavily in his decision and course of action (Connell, 1987; Gibson, 1986).
These are the same issues faced by female victims experiencing IPV and IPT
(Hines, 2007).
Connell (1987) advises that via
social norms and values many males have a large amount of pressure put upon
them in the form of socially prescribed roles which require them to behave in
prescribed manners and to preserve an elevated stance of invulnerability. Males
have been indoctrinated with the mind-set that to be a real man requires one to
be sturdy (Leary et al., 2006; Nisbett and Cohen, 1996). In addition, cultural
norms and influences also play heavily into the decision making process Leary
et al., 2006). Connell (1987) advised that some societies and cultures espouse
that real men do not talk about feelings or emotions, nor do they ask for assistance
for their problems, and this is even more the case as relates to issues with
IPV and private family matters (Archer, 2006). These social values and norms
create strong pressure and the mindsets of having to be strong, work through
it, regain control and preserve his reputation and do this via whatever means
necessary to include the use of aggression, force, or violence, which in many
societies is seen as being acceptable actions for men. If the male feels like
this can not be accomplished they become even more demoralized (Garcia et al.,
2007).
The realization of experiencing
pressure and depression from emasculation occurring over and over; along with
the seriousness of the acts of IPV not ending, and the perception of no
alternative to regain his socially pronounced status, the male could believe
violence to be the only logical solution (Garcia et al., 2007). In accordance
with conflict theory he is now experiencing what it is like to be the dominated
one; however, in this position he can accept it; try to change things, or try
to regain his position. If the victimization is more than he can stand, he can
attempt to use whatever means possible to become dominant again and allow for
him to obtain his self-interests. Straus (2006) advises society creates an
inequality existing amid partners which increases the probability of the
occurrence of IPV due to the dominance existing in the relationship by one of
the partners. Everyone has conflicting self-interests to a degree and these
self-interests necessitate maintenance via their position to be maintained via
the use of force if the situation necessitates it.
In intimate partner conflicted
situations, the role of perception can not be underestimated, Gibson (1986)
advises that a key aspect of interpretation of all actions is the perception of
the actions by the viewing person via their individual lenses. Once the
receiver processes the information through their lenses they then assign
meaning and value to what they perceive. Via this process they decide what
action they need to take (Gibson, 1966, 1986). A perceived conflict by the male
victim can create complacency, acquiescence, limited resistance, or to
defiance, rebellion leading to hostility. An even worse situation is when the
male perceives conflict which is not acknowledged by the female due to her
being in the dominant position and seeing things as being the way she wants
them. This ignoring of the existing conflict is very likely to create a very
high level of hostility (McDonald and Leary, 2005; Strauss, 2006).
The male victim’s perspective here
places the issue at being close to irresolvable due to the non-acknowledgement
of the issue. The problem now is with no issue, there can be no conflict to
resolve, thus creating an irresolvable conflict for the male leading to great
disrespect, frustration, and the need to use whatever means to regain power and
control to resolve the conflict to place things back to where they were prior
to the conflict arising (Finkel and Campbell, 2001). If the conflicted
situation rises to this level there is a good chance that the IPV can
translates into Intimate Partner Homicide (IPH) (Starr, Hobart, and Fawcett,
2004). This situation is based on the experience of the male victim and his
perception of the reality of the circumstances and ignoring by the female
aggressor (Hines and Douglas, 2008; Langlands and Ward, 2009; Twenge, Catanese,
& Baumeister, 2003). It appears from the literature that male victims
experience a plethora of situations, feelings, and emotions.
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